It turns out the sex lives of young single Aussies are less sex in the city and more abstinence down under.
New research has revealed 93 per cent of single Aussies don’t have sex at all on an average week.
Shameless Media, the brainchild of Zara McDonald and Michelle Andrews that has spawned successful podcasts aimed at Millennials and Gen Zers such as Shameless and Everybody Has a Secret, conducted the research.
The survey of 2800 young Aussies found people in relationships were having far more sex than singles.
Some 24 per cent of young Aussies in relationships are having sex once a week,
10 per cent said they have sex once a month, 21 per cent said they have sex three times a week, and 4.5 per cent said doing the deed is a once-every-three-months event.
This may not sound like a lot but once you compare it to how much sex singles Aussies are having and it looks far more impressive.
For single Aussies, it was a different story, far less about getting down and dirty and far more about not having much sex at all, with 30 per cent admitting they have sex once every three months and 48.4 per cent sharing they weren’t happy with their sex lives.
The co-hosts of Everybody Has a Secret, Annabelle Lee and Louis Hanson, unpacked the findings, and both hosts admitted they weren’t “surprised” by the lack of sex.
Lee said she’d spent most of her adult life being single, and while the statistics were “confronting” for a newly-single girl like herself, they also relieved the pressure.
“I’ve always said that I’m a very boring single person, and I love being my own. I find it so hard meeting new people and trying to connect with them. These stats make me feel seen,” she said.
Hanson was initially surprised by the findings, but said the statistics made perfect sense to him.
“I was surprised, but now that it’s settling in. I’m not surprised. I think it is standard that most people aren’t f**king a lot,” he said.
“It is comforting. There is an element of singledom that makes you feel pressure to have sex because you feel like that is what everyone should be doing when they are single.”
Lee said perhaps single people are less eager to jump in between the sheets with each other because single sex isn’t always the best sex.
“The truth of the matter is for lots of single people that have sex on nights out with new people a lot of the time, it is s**t.”
Hanson said the first bad sex you have after a break-up is always a “humbling” experience.
Alicia Davis, 31, is one of those singles not having much sex. In fact, her sex life is “non-existent almost embarrassingly so,” she told news.com.au
She said that while sex is fun, she’s not into casual hook-up culture and it often just falls into the “too hard” basket.
“99 per cent of the time, it is a disappointment, so it is not even worth it,” she said.
Ms Davis said she wishes she had more “personal sex,” but she finds it hard to find someone she wants to have it with.
“I would love to say I have loads of sex; who wouldn’t! But it’s not really important to me if it’s not with a person I have some form of connection to,” she said.